Comments on: On the Brass Ring http://danishapiro.com/2010/03/on-the-brass-ring/ Tue, 15 May 2012 19:45:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Musings de Mommy http://danishapiro.com/2010/03/on-the-brass-ring/comment-page-1/#comment-376 Musings de Mommy Tue, 08 Jun 2010 19:44:57 +0000 http://danishapiro.com/?p=992#comment-376 As I currently stretch to reach my big writing achievements, I read this perfect piece from you. Good, solid words that I will hold onto and revisit. Thank you. As I currently stretch to reach my big writing achievements, I read this perfect piece from you. Good, solid words that I will hold onto and revisit. Thank you.

]]> By: Musings de Mommy http://danishapiro.com/2010/03/on-the-brass-ring/comment-page-1/#comment-240 Musings de Mommy Tue, 08 Jun 2010 14:44:57 +0000 http://danishapiro.com/?p=992#comment-240 As I currently stretch to reach my big writing achievements, I read this perfect piece from you. Good, solid words that I will hold onto and revisit. Thank you. As I currently stretch to reach my big writing achievements, I read this perfect piece from you. Good, solid words that I will hold onto and revisit. Thank you.

]]> By: Dani Shapiro http://danishapiro.com/2010/03/on-the-brass-ring/comment-page-1/#comment-138 Dani Shapiro Tue, 04 May 2010 02:36:35 +0000 http://danishapiro.com/?p=992#comment-138 So true, Jen. I think about that a lot -- especially in the fast-paced world we live in. There's always something new to aspire to -- I see it in my son, and and want so much for him (for all of us) to stop and take in what's right here, right now. So true, Jen. I think about that a lot -- especially in the fast-paced world we live in. There's always something new to aspire to -- I see it in my son, and and want so much for him (for all of us) to stop and take in what's right here, right now.

]]> By: Jen M. http://danishapiro.com/2010/03/on-the-brass-ring/comment-page-1/#comment-128 Jen M. Mon, 03 May 2010 19:59:31 +0000 http://danishapiro.com/?p=992#comment-128 Thanks so much for sharing your perspective. It's similar to a disagreement (ahem, I mean conversation) I have quite often with my husband when we talk about money. These conversations usually take place during a long car ride with napping children when we daydream about winning the lottery. I challenge my husband that he will never be satisfied by a certain dollar amount. "Look at where we are today compared to when we were first married." There will always be higher bills or more expensive luxury items. That proverbial door to financial freedom also gets pushed back as you reach greater success and make more and more money.<br><br>We're all greedy...or at least searching for the latest and greatest rush. It tends to manifest as fame or fortune. But we're really looking for acknowledgement, aren't we? Love? Respect? An understanding that others appreciate us for who and what we are. Thanks so much for sharing your perspective. It's similar to a disagreement (ahem, I mean conversation) I have quite often with my husband when we talk about money. These conversations usually take place during a long car ride with napping children when we daydream about winning the lottery. I challenge my husband that he will never be satisfied by a certain dollar amount. "Look at where we are today compared to when we were first married." There will always be higher bills or more expensive luxury items. That proverbial door to financial freedom also gets pushed back as you reach greater success and make more and more money.

We're all greedy...or at least searching for the latest and greatest rush. It tends to manifest as fame or fortune. But we're really looking for acknowledgement, aren't we? Love? Respect? An understanding that others appreciate us for who and what we are.

]]> By: Christine Mason Miller http://danishapiro.com/2010/03/on-the-brass-ring/comment-page-1/#comment-105 Christine Mason Miller Sun, 11 Apr 2010 18:45:41 +0000 http://danishapiro.com/?p=992#comment-105 Very well said, and an important reminder. Thank you for sharing this. Very well said, and an important reminder. Thank you for sharing this.

]]> By: katrinakenison http://danishapiro.com/2010/03/on-the-brass-ring/comment-page-1/#comment-95 katrinakenison Sat, 03 Apr 2010 21:24:03 +0000 http://danishapiro.com/?p=992#comment-95 Hi Dani. As a writer, I often don't allow myself to pause to experience those moments of recognition, or what everyone else views as "success." There is a little bit of guilt along the with that rush you describe so well. We all have so many gifted friends who struggle to be heard, we know of so many worthy books that languish on remainder tables, and of course we know that our own moment is fleeting anyway. Still, there is something to be said for honoring ourselves and our own accomplishments -- just as we would celebrate an achievement by one of our children. We can raise that glass, savor the moment, and in the process let it go. What a good thing to model for our kids: joy, as well as our own acceptance of impermanence. Hi Dani. As a writer, I often don't allow myself to pause to experience those moments of recognition, or what everyone else views as "success." There is a little bit of guilt along the with that rush you describe so well. We all have so many gifted friends who struggle to be heard, we know of so many worthy books that languish on remainder tables, and of course we know that our own moment is fleeting anyway. Still, there is something to be said for honoring ourselves and our own accomplishments -- just as we would celebrate an achievement by one of our children. We can raise that glass, savor the moment, and in the process let it go. What a good thing to model for our kids: joy, as well as our own acceptance of impermanence.

]]> By: Privilege of Parenting http://danishapiro.com/2010/03/on-the-brass-ring/comment-page-1/#comment-94 Privilege of Parenting Sat, 03 Apr 2010 05:19:54 +0000 http://danishapiro.com/?p=992#comment-94 I came to your site following a blogger I admire who quoted you, and I relate to this post very well. It brings to mind a time many years ago when my best friend from college and I were both aspiring screenwriters and one day he sold a script for a million dollars and I was still a temp secretary. Sitting at our customary Tuesday night dinner at El Coyote I simply had to admit that I was nearly paralyzed with envy... at least that day. And then it was gone. After eighteen scripts that nearly happened, with all manner of reasons things fell apart, including an avalanche that killed the financier of an Andy Garcia would-be action film... I came to realize that the universe was not smiling on this endeavor. By this time I had become a psychologist and turned my writing in the service of parenting... by this time I've long gotten over the brass ring thing and find affirmation in Ron's position, having found much gold in the shit and the darkness, and while it's nothing you could take to the bank (not that they don't deserve it), the process itself proves healing and illuminating.<br><br>Having many high-profile writer clients as a Beverly Hills shrink, I love this brave new blogging world where the well published and the unpublished can cross paths with some authentic recognition of the real point of writing—it's a bit Dickensian, don't you think? I came to your site following a blogger I admire who quoted you, and I relate to this post very well. It brings to mind a time many years ago when my best friend from college and I were both aspiring screenwriters and one day he sold a script for a million dollars and I was still a temp secretary. Sitting at our customary Tuesday night dinner at El Coyote I simply had to admit that I was nearly paralyzed with envy... at least that day. And then it was gone. After eighteen scripts that nearly happened, with all manner of reasons things fell apart, including an avalanche that killed the financier of an Andy Garcia would-be action film... I came to realize that the universe was not smiling on this endeavor. By this time I had become a psychologist and turned my writing in the service of parenting... by this time I've long gotten over the brass ring thing and find affirmation in Ron's position, having found much gold in the shit and the darkness, and while it's nothing you could take to the bank (not that they don't deserve it), the process itself proves healing and illuminating.

Having many high-profile writer clients as a Beverly Hills shrink, I love this brave new blogging world where the well published and the unpublished can cross paths with some authentic recognition of the real point of writing—it's a bit Dickensian, don't you think?

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