Dani Shapiro

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I've begun to realize that maintaining a spiritual life is a bit like sticking to an exercise regime.   Use it or lose it, as they say.  The muscles atrophy quickly -- though they also retain their memory.  It is a paradox of my current life that as I am on the road promoting Devotion, it is hard to find the time -- the hour or two or three a day -- to maintain the practices I learned and developed during the years spent writing the book.  These are practices I fully intend to maintain for the rest of my life -- but how to reconcile a fast-pace, overfull life with the rigors of silence and contemplation? Most days, as I prepare for appearances, or travel, I don't have ninety minutes to do yoga, or a half hour to sit in silent meditation.  So what is to be done?

Some of the wisest people around me have suggested that everything is an opportunity to practice.  Everything.  When I am helping my son with his homework, that is a practice.  When I'm stocking up the kitchen cupboards because I'm going to be away for a week, that is a practice.  When I'm responding to the beautiful letters I receive every day about Devotion, that is a practice.  Recently I was walking down the street in New York City, and I was in a grumpy mood.  I began, quite unexpectedly to do a walking Metta meditation.  May you be safe, I silently said to the man in the suit walking towards me.  May you be happy, to the glamorous woman talking on her cell phone.  May you be strong, to the elderly woman.  May you live with ease, to the construction worker in the hard hat.  Suddenly, walking down the street was a practice.  And me?  I was no longer grumpy.

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  • Sari Max-Fiss
    I've read this and 'moments of being' all the way through and this is the penultimate entry of the lot...your mindfulness in the present moment coupled with sending out that most powerful and generous prayer for ALL... Bravo, Dani!!
  • I just finished reading Devotion and wanted to thank you for writing it. I can not tell you how much I identified with your journey. Unlike you, I came from a family that offered smogasboard answers to religious questions, but at 43 I think I have ended up in a spiritual proximity near you. Each of our three children (ages 8 yrs to 20 months) has dealt with some serious malady. We spend the first two to three years of each one's life not knowing what the outcome will be. Most recently, our beloved youngest, whom we adopted from Taiwan last year, was diagnosed with microcephaly and a host of brain injuries following a seizure the day after her first birthday. She is doing well, but we are still unsure how "normal" her development will be. Having children who have not developed normally has been incredibly lonely at times and your story really comforted me in a deep place. So, from one mother who has tired of hearing phrases like "God only gives us what we can handle" to another, thank you so much! May you be safe, may you be happy, may you be strong, may you live with ease. God willing. Sincerely, Sarah S.
  • heathergallantgagnon
    Trying to keep myself "in the moment" is a daily practice. I agree that yoga, meditation, helping a child with homework, driving, and grocery shopping can be considered "practice," too. I call that practicing yoga "off the mat." It is reassuring to read about your daily struggle, as well.

    Since reading "Devotion" and meeting you at Kripalu, I have begun to practice metta mediation. I've found it very "centering" when I'm in the midst of a chaotic situation or on my meditation cushion. As a yoga teacher, I sometimes feel like I should have a firm grasp of this "in the moment" living, but it is a definite practice and process for me. Perhaps we teach what we need to learn?!?

    Thank you for continuing to share your journey through this blog. I, too, was disappointed when the book ended, so I am glad to be able to continue reading about your experiences here.

    Thanks and namaste,
    Heather
  • AL
    Hi Dani, you are using "tools of distraction" to either hide or cover something missing, that bothers you every once in a while. you are in a constant search of (.?.) until you find it and figure out how to connect with it; these band-aids will only work temporarily. you are a good soul, but shrouded by the life you have lived and still live. just look deep inside and from up above... good heavens.
    by the way I have no idea who you are. I just found out about you tonight.
  • Gail Siegel
    How lovely. I am moved, just reading this. And I love the way it lifts all the people you see on the street, briefly, out of their anonymity. xxxGail
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